Naming Names

Your weblog received a new comment for the post A Tenative Return.

Comment text: oh wow here we go again.. cant wait to hear abt the 4th one 5th one.. why do u keep repeating his first and last name again and again? wtf is ur problem with him?

 

I recieved this comment this morning and im wondering about this persons reading skills. I didnt mention “his” full name. And, the previous post said the following- “Naming names, deal with it.” If you hate it then stop coming here to read my blog. Again, I repeat- “if the “man” behaved there would be nothing to say.” Capice?

Greetings, Ive established a wireless router for my home so that I can get onto the laptop more often. Im not sure if I really want to resume occasional blogs. It appears that some people struggle to comprehend the timestamp on my blogs. For an instance, anything that has to do with arthur were from over 2 years ago. Yet I still get comments. Apparently, people dont expect people to change. This expectation would explain why people are still defensive. For those of you who are interested, a girl contacted me telling me she has been raped by him. This would be the THIRD girl who got raped and refuses to do anything about it except complain. I dont know why these girls happen to tell ME about their experience.
My final point is There Would Be No “Talking” about this Prick if he would BEHAVE himself. At least treat girls with respect and not as barbies. *Eyeroll*

READ THE TITLE OF THE BLOG- Naming Names… deal with it.

The ladies came over and we conversed over hot apple ciders with our craft projects. Alot of us got our creative brains flowing…so much that most of us stayed until 11pm! Here are some pictures. Stupid me, I forgot to include one of mine and one of Meryls We had paint, glitter, a hot glue gun, discarded cardboard packing, nail polish, buttons, hole punchers, shaped sissors, scrapbooking paper, surplus galore!<br>

 Melanie Bowlus’s greeting card trio set. All made from used greeting cards to her family <br>
  Michelle Ame’s Gift Box set made from cardboard packaging and a tin (for nuts?)<br>  Shawna Grant’s Greetint card trio and gift box made from cardboard packaging.<br>  And, last but not the least, Darleen Winship’s Gift bag made from a cardboard packaging as well! She also made other things but is not included here.<br>

Its amazing. Since the first posting about Arthur Luhn on Dec 15, 2005, Ive been contacted by three females. All from this fall alone, inquiring about his reputation. All of them stumbled across my blog via google-ing his name and became concerned with what they read. In turn, they aimmed me to find out more.
It appears Arthur is trying to find new girls through the Deaf Singles Connection network. For his “alluring and pristine” picture check it there.
I am glad that my post is out there to help alert women. I do believe people can change so it is possible that Arthur has figured out how to have a mutual relationship with a female. Who knows. I havent spoken to him since the posting. Good Luck!

Driving on a country road, just dropped off Averi at the Daycare, I look into my rear mirror and see this small red UGLY on my tail. Close enough to be smelling my Carbon Monoxide, I give a 2 sec brake warning to maybe give the man a chance to realize what hes doing.
Instead, he passes me ever so slowly. Eyes meet. The friendly bird says hi. He proceeds to the front and starts swerving. Then he drives for several yards in the wrong lane then shoots back over. 2383 ND, red UGLY’s name. I really wanted to call the cops. Im on that road everyday. Chances of running into (literally/figuratively) red UGLY are high. Eh. SIPrelay, IPrelay, THATshamiliton…choices choices. Eh who has time! Id probably get arrested for calling and driving at the same time. Pfth.

Apologies in advance for those of you who continue to revisit my site for new updates. Ive been sidetracked with new things in my life and the lack of easy peasy internet access. (Still need to get wifi hooked up in my home). ANYWAYS, ive come on breifly to state the following;
I pity those of you who think your comments regarding arthur will ever change my mind about my experience with him. Life is all about experiences. Those that I post on my blog are recounts of what I see, hear, and- most of all- feel. DUH. Which means I ultimately write from my own subjective bias. As far -as my postings go as well as all other things that take place in my life- I produce comments based on a collective style. To explain further for the narrow minded… this MEANS recounts that include what i saw, heard, and – most of all, felt when associating with other people on different levels which include the following; tAlKiNg, oBsErViNg, pArTiCiPaTiNg, and so on. IF YOUR EXPERIENCE is or was different, then cheers for you! My point is, do not find yourself in the position where you think you can CHANGE MY EXPERIENCE for the sake of… yourself??? I dont know, its not clear to me at all.

Do I believe people can change? F#$king right I do! Do I doubt that Arthur has the ability to change? Of course not, like EVERY other HUMAN being ON this EARTH, he can change, too. BUT he can never change what i experienced in the past with him along with those girls he raped. THE END.

I sat yesterday watching my son breastfeed, a wonderful image of thriving on something so simple, yet amazing and powerful. I wonder in awe how my body can provide everything he needs in infancy then it hits me- I almost chose a life without children. My grandfather was right, indeed, there’s nothing else like it. Of course, what you don’t know cannout hurt you so I wasn’t hurting but now I know what it is like to have a child so it aches a bit. Some people wonder how they can fit a child into their life, budget and time wise…honestly it just fits, no ifs and buts. Like when we adopted our two cats and we wonder what life was like before them, you just can’t imagine how much space you had without them because it seems like a waste. There’s just so much love to go around. Kirsta is right in her reply to my question, “what is it like to have two kidss now?” She replied, “}here’s more love, it isn’t divided from the amount I had when I had just one.” Oh, I came up with an anology that may either put people off or is agreeable: you know that new grocery store or business development in your area? See how it just fit right in, even though they tore down trees and raked the land to build it? Can you imagine the abundance of land before it? While I’m very into mother nature and the preservation of the environment, I’m just saying for this example, that the abundance seems like land being unused thus a waste. Now, remember- when I didn’t know, this “waste” was well used in my career development as a CDI and ASL Instructor, my social life, and so on so I felt like I was very content and I really was secure with it. So either way it was fine- the trick is the “knowing” part Therefore, I totally understand why parents grieve soooo deeply when they loose a child before they themselves pass away. How can you live a life without children after you “know”?

My friend got dicked during play rehersals by the director and it lead up to the point where Jenny did not feel comfortable about pursuing her role in the play. Ridor commented on her blog to which Jenny replied that the director should realize he was slightly at fault. Then here was my comment! Im really pissed that this guy weaned his way around this one. It is so obnoxious that the director sought for support from other cast members during the discussion where Jenny was trying to explain how she only blogged about her feelings. Hello- 5th amendament? Freedom of speech- all the guy had to do was stop reading, it wasnt professional to let “critique” get in the way of his work with a cast member.
Slightly at fault?
The whole thing is his fault- he was being an asshole about accomodating you guys into the play. Most directors are very open and inclusive. I wish the comment section was working on my sidekic- it won’t take anything right now- but this is what I wanna say “he’s the most half assed director I’ve heard of, one who impairs the image of the theatre world by showing that closed mind non-adaptive directors exist thus denoting the openess as the main goal. Such hypocricy saddens me, as one who has had the pleasure of working with 18 directors and always felt that there was a place for any kind of persona in theatre. He should be ashamed of himself- especially if any other directors were to hear about this… Granted some of my directors were pricks bec it was their style but it was never based on lack of accomodation!”
This whole thing reminds me of Arthur coming onto my blogs to find that I have commented and critiqued his work, professional ethics, and so on to only email me to complain about it to try to stop me. Naturally as you all know, I basically told him to fuck off- its my blog I can say whatever I want on it and not to continue giving me ammunition to continue talking about him. He finally stopped. And I stopped, until now, for this example only. Ive exhausted my comments on that guy anyway.
The director named above scenario is BOB WEIDMAN and the show is called AUTOMATIC SUPERSTAR. Dont attend my NYCer friends Unless you have created button pins that say “BOB is a Dick not a Director” Heehee.

Thank you Jenny for bringing this to my attention.

I just read this article about this insane custody battle over a hearing child where the deaf parent is at a disadvantage because she cannot speak! Ricky Taylor (www.ridorlive.com) featured this article so I lifted this from his site to help spread the word. *^$#%

What To Do?  In Colorado, a hearing father is attempting to take a hearing child away from his deaf mother, citing the speech and sounds as the means to pull the boy away from his mother.  Here is the article that I received via the email.
My ex husband is battling for custody of my son and he thinks I’m unable to raise a hearing child due to my disablitity. Please email me at sunmoon_6@msn.com for any comments or a websites about deaf parents can raise hearing kids and doesn’t cause learning disablitity due to lack of speech. Thank you.
Chris understand that normally the court feels that a child this young needs to spend the majority of his time with his mother, however there are extenuating circumstances in this case to where that scenario is not in the best interest of the child. Caleb’s mother is deaf but does have some speech. Sarah’s friend that she is residing with, Glenn is also deaf and non-verbal. The majority of Sarah’s friends are deaf and non-verbal also. Since Sarah’s deafness is due to a childhood illness and not genetic, Caleb is a normal hearing child. For these reasons, the time Caleb, a normal hearing child, spends with his mother at home or in a social setting is mostly non-verbal. Since Caleb is now learning to develop his speech and vocal patterns spending the majority of his time this type of environment could cause developmental delays or even the possiblitiy of a permanent learning disability.
There are two instances that this situation is already starting to develop. Most of the Monday’s that Chris has parenting time with Caleb, Caleb spends the enire day with out any vocalization at all, only signing to his father. When Chris has Caleb for the two days, usually by the second day, he starts to verbalize a little but the majority of his communication is through sign language. His mother, Sarah, is teaching sign language and that is important for him to know so he can communicate with his mother, the others that reside in her household and in social situations with her friends. Crhis also worked with Caleb, at Sarah’s request, to keep him learn sign language. However, it is as equally if not more important for Caleb to learn speech and vocalization since he is a normal hearing child.
The second situation has arisen from some of the vocalization that Caleb has learned. He has recently learned how to scream, while playing, while getting excited about something he is doing or when mad. This is normal for all children to go through. Normally when a child screams the parent would guide the child about the time that screaming is appropriate and not appropriate, such as inside voices and outside voices. Unfortunely, with Sarah being deaf and spending most of her time in a deaf environment, she or anyone else around her cannot hear Caleb when he screams. To the child there is nothing wrong with this. To them it is a new exciting thing they have learned to accomplish. Chris and Caleb’s paternal grandmother have tried working with him to learn when this is appropriate and not appropriate, however with the limited amount of time that he is now spending with his father it has not yet been effective. This have developed to the poiont that when Sarah and Caleb were at her parents for the holidays, her parents talked to Sarah about it and told her she needed to talk to Chris about him working with Caleb about his screaming, which Sarah did. Chris explained to her that he and Caleb’s paternal grandmother both had been trying but so far to no avail.
People accept inappropriate behaviors more from small children, however as Caleb continues to grow older, others will start to chatise him for thise behaviors, which could lead to changes in the way he interacts socially with others. Currently he is a sweet lovable and outgoing child who very much enjoys socializing with other individuals.
Chris is not asking the court to discrimiate against Sarah because of her disabiltiy but to recongize Caleb’s rights to have the opportunity to develop like any other normal hearing child of 15 months of age. By allowing Caleb to spend an equal amount of time with his father in a hearing  and speaking environment as he does with his mother in a non-hearing and non-verbal environment will be in his best interest to help him develop more like the hearing and verbal child he is.
Hopefully, by Caleb spending equal time with both parents, he will develop normally for a hearing and speaking child. However, in the future if a concern is expressed that there are developmental delays, testing should be done. If it is discerned that there are truly developmental delays parenting time should then changed to where Caleb’s father becomes the primary caregiver in order for Caleb to spend more time in a hearing and verbal environment. Once it is discerned that Caleb is back to his appropriate age level in development, parenting time could then be changed back to being equally divided between both parents.

 

This has been a growing irritation since I’ve become dependent on elevators. Today I get on to go up 5 floors. The elevator goes down to B1 to pick up a heavy set hospital worker and he pushes B2. I glare at the back of his head, willing him to read my mind- you should have taken the stairs… Going down is sooooo easy! Then after that it stops at the first floor to pick up a heathy woman to drop her off on the second floor. I’m like *omg lady you can’t even walk up 1 flight of stairs?!?! No wonder why Americans have obsedity problems* SIGH. I hate elevators.